A helping hand when times are tough
We have seen in increase in the number of members talking about the financial pressures this year. In response to this outcry, I was approached by a mum who had been through a tough time and regrets not asking for help sooner. This is her story.
I am really blessed at the moment, with a great job and a stable roof over my head. But life isn't always easy…
Sometimes things happen to us that we can't control, and put us in a difficult position. For me, that has happened in my life. It's a long, complicated story for another time, but the short version is that, despite working, I was dealing with a difficult situation.
My son had some additional needs and medical appointments were costing me a fortune. I was also having to drive at least three hours per day for my usual commute, and the petrol was so costly. We weren't eligible for any government support, like NDIS, so everything we did was self-funded. And I would have spent my last cent on getting my child the medical support he needed.
When it came to extras, like Christmas, I just didn't have the money. There was one Christmas when my son received some clothes, a couple of books and one game. All bought on special. And that meant I couldn't eat properly that week. I was scraping change together for petrol.
But when is needy, needy enough? I had a job. I lived in a house. I have family and friends, one of whom lent me money for the books. I could have reached out for charitable help, that's what it's there for. But I always felt like there was someone worse off than me, and I shouldn't take from them. So I cut back. Didn't get my hair cut for over a year. Didn't buy new clothes. Didn't buy anything that I considered a luxury. I was embarrassed to ask for help and I was embarrassed about the situation I had found myself in. I didn't want people to know how hard it was.
Life has picked up for me now and I am lucky, because for many it doesn't. But what I have learnt is, I should have taken the charity when I needed it. I could have had assistance to get food, rather than struggling and not eating as often. If I had taken the charity, I might have money left over for a trip to the hairdresser. People like to give, so that those less fortunate can receive. So this Christmas, and beyond, if you are struggling and feel like you could use a hand, take what's available to you. Don't be embarassed. And you can give back when you are able, but when you can't it's your turn to receive.
Making Christmas merry with the Dandenong Ranges Emergency Relief Service
MotHs is once again supporting the Dandenong Ranges Emergency Relief Service Inc's Christmas Gift Appeal. If you haven't heard of DRERS, I would highly recommend checking out their website. They have been helping local families in need since 1998. Their Christmas gift appeal is highly tailored and local, respecting the needs and dignity of those that use their service. For those in our private Facebook group, please find our pinned post that details the volunteer gift collectors for your area.
The DRERS can really help those in need and not just with Christmas gifts. They can provide fuel vouchers, aid with rent, food and other assistance. Please reach out to them. To learn more about DRERS - check out their website.
If you are a local business owner who could act as a drop of point and willing to deliver gifts to DRERS, please get it touch - contact@mumsofthehills.com.au
Other ways to receive help, give help & save some pennies
DRERS is not the only place to find support over the Christmas season. I have created this budget friendly food shopping guide that combines all the best places to buy groceries at the lowest price. There is also information on where to find help with food if you need some short term help while things are tight. We’ve all been there, so please reach out. You can also find more of our resources and contacts here: https://www.mumsofthehills.com.au/resources/a-helping-hand
